When we pronounce people as insecure, it is actually an issue of self esteem. There are immensely talented people who have not gone anywhere, Reason? Low self esteem leading to a diffidence, often all through life. Starting with a lack of award winning "performances" in the eyes of a critical family to self criticism, the journey is very painful. And then they don't believe those who see their talents and try to encourage them to look beyond their self image.
On the flip side are average but very confident people who get past obstacles with their winning ways and even reach the top. Self esteem was hardly an issue here. But they work hard for recognition to compensate for their lack of natural talent and a limited acquired one. At group gatherings, people stand out in both these cases. It is interesting to watch how some can just take over while the others prefer to keep quiet despite the ability for coherent and intelligent speech. The mix of individual and group energy is a case study I enjoy learning from.
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